Tuesday, October 15, 2019

I Should Stop

Before Twitter was created. The founders were working at a company called Odeo, trying to build the next podcasting empire. This was before podcasting was popular.

The CEO of the startup had sent around a company wide email pinpointing a detailed plan on podcasting domination. One of the founders, Biz Stone, read the plan and agreed. He told the CEO that if they were to follow this plan, they would indeed be the kings of podcasting.

But he had one question. He asked, do you really want to be the king of podcasting? And the CEO replied, no, not really. They didn't have any real passion for podcasting. They never recorded their own audio or even listened to podcasts. So they decided to shut the company down and work on something else that they were excited about. A project that aligned with the history of what they enjoyed and that they would spend all their time thinking about, whether they were at work or not. That project ended up becoming Twitter.

Do you really want to be doing what you are doing?

This story was from the book Things a Little Bird Told Me by Biz Stone. I haven't finished it yet so won't recommend at this time but enjoyed this little tidbit especially since I recently had my own "actually, I don't want to be working on this. I should stop" moment.

Monday, October 14, 2019

How You Think


source: https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/09/thinking-ladder.html
 Tim Urban has been putting out a great series of articles.  One idea that really stuck was to pay attention to how people think instead of what people think. How one thinks is more important than what one thinks. Are we thinking with our "higher mind" or our "primitive mind"? At the top of the spectrum we are open to opinions, even dissenting opinions, and seeking truth. At the bottom we are seeking confirmation of our ideas, attack opposition, and have little  evidence and thought structure to support our own ideas.

As the topics get more complex and as information changes even faster, the value of how we think increases over what we think. Thinking with our higher mind allows us to be make sure the best idea wins as well as making sure we let go of outdated ones as the times change.

This can also be applied to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Observe what level you are making decisions at. "Let's go get some fast food" might be the lowest tier vs. "I'll let you choose where we eat because I want you to be happy" might be higher up the rung.

Whenever people are expressing ideas it may be helpful to consider the axis of how the person is thinking instead of the idea in itself.


Sunday, October 6, 2019

Software Is The Best Deal

Most software is a crazy good deal for the consumer. The reason is because duplicating and distributing software is nearly free. Why is this important? If it can be duplicated and distributed for free then it can reach more people. And if it can reach more people, then the price can be lower because the the maker can make up a decent profit on volume.

Most of the cost is upfront to build the product but after that most of the profit will go to the bottom line. Since software can scale wide to a large number of users, the prices can get low, maybe even almost free. The price gets spread around more and more customers. It also gets better because these economics also justify making it better; more people to get value from added feature or improved graphic. 

Now you add in competition to drive costs down and that's where we are at with some large enterprises selling their product for free to consumers because they have scale due to that nature of software and they can make money based on that scale whether it be ads or becoming a platform for others to target their users. Just this month 4 or 5 discount brokerages will start to offer $0 commission trading to stop the bleeding of Robinhood taking all their customers. They can make good enough money just on the interest of deposits alone.

This is starting to be true for non-digital goods and services as well. Maybe we'll one day see movie theaters with free movies but making money on concessions. The improving of technology and distribution, the ability to scale is a great deal for consumers.

Sunday, September 29, 2019

Product-Founder Fit

I was listing to Mubs on the IndieHackers podcast today and he brought up an interesting point about Product-Founder fit being more important than product market fit in his case. Courtland then agreed in a way by saying he always took Product-Founder fit was the default and then from there, look for the things that might gain an audience or make money. Mubs does do a lot of projects without even considering how to monetize first.

In my indie developer journey, I've started with the same Product-Founder fit first approach by scratching my own itch. However, I did take a detour from that recently and it didn't end well. Since I can work from anywhere, my friend said he could host me in Toronto. Neat! I'd be able to explore Toronto and we could work on a project together. He suggested a fitness app. I'm into fitness so I said sure why not. I spent the next month working on the project. He would help too but it was difficult for him to dedicate real hours due to a tough work schedule. I wasn't really into the project but I just figured if I get the ball rolling, then the momentum would kick in. At the end of the month I knew it was not going to work. I could keep going but it wasn't something I really wanted to work on. The amount of effort it takes, the waking up early to work on it, the thought put in after hours is just not worth it if you aren't committed. One month of work wasted. Well not completely, we still had a lot of fun and I left time to explore a new city.

But lesson learned, make sure there is Product-Founder fit because even if you end up not finding Product-Market fit, at least you will have worked on (and hopefully shipped) something you love.

Thursday, September 26, 2019

Lead Your Own Nature

I remember one time I was driving from the San Francisco Bay Area to Santa Barbara, where I was attending university at the time. I had a packed car full of colleagues. Many of us would carpool together to visit our families over school breaks. It was my turn to drive.

On the way I was cut off randomly by another car. Nothing bad happened. No accident. I may have swerved or braked a bit. But what I remember vividly is the reactions of my passengers. They were angry. Yelling at the other car. “You idiot, you could have killed us!”  Everyone was pretty heated. Except for me... and that’s why I remember this. Because not only was I not angry about it, I was actually embarrassed that I didn’t have the same reaction as the others. I wanted to fit in but I don’t think I could have faked it if I tried. That could have been the end of my life, why wasn’t I angry?

There’s a story I heard recently (sorry forget the source) about a man who joins a group meditation. He starts getting into a good mind space but is interrupted when he hears the guy two rows over is making some funny sounds. They guy is making some awkward clicking sounds as if gnashing his teeth. And it doesn’t seem like he is just adjusting himself but doing it randomly. Is he doing this on purpose? Maybe he is just trying to mess with the class? And if it was a medical condition, he should know not to join a meditation class! The nerve. After it continues for a while the guy is thoroughly annoyed. He’s had enough of it and decides to confront the guy making the noises. When he gets close he realizes that the sound was not coming from the other man but rather from the water heater next to him.

This changes everything. Even though the sound was still there, the man calmed down instantly. It’s a bit silly to be angry at the water heater. But if we think about it, maybe we should be treating other humans like the water heater. We give special privilege to other humans to affect our own moods because we believe they have control of their actions and those actions should be what we expect. When it’s not, we get sad or angry. But in some sense humans aren’t really different than the broken water heater.

You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. - Marcus Aurelius

And that’s one of the core principles of stoicism: you can’t change things out of your control. But you can change yourself. And to go even further with it Marcus stresses that it's within their nature to lie, cheat, drive poorly. "They can't help it". Rather "look straight ahead, follow your own nature, through your own actions."

Sunday, September 22, 2019

We are Lemmings

Sometimes it helps to see ourselves not as brilliant magnificent beings who have perfect discipline and motivation but rather lazy, easily distracted,  and weak minded. We aren't always like this and most of us are somewhere in between, and sure it depends on the day, but seeing ourselves as the latter will help us set up helpful systems. Because if we can get ourselves to do what we need to do on our worst days, then we can do it for our best days too.

I keep track of my weight other fitness measurements like body fat percentage, resting heart rate and blood pressure and try to measure it every month. It helps keep me in check; if I notice I put on some weight then I know I need to adjust my diet. I have it on my calendar to do this, but when the time comes I often forget to do it at all. And I'll keep forgetting to do it multiple days in a row. To fix the problem, I had to lower my view of myself. Instead I left clues for myself by putting all the equipment I needed in front of my computer the night before. That way when I checked my computer out of habit first thing in the morning I'd be alerted.

This is similar to the idea of wearing your gym shorts to sleep if you want to start running in the morning or putting your guitar down next to your couch if you want to learn to play the guitar. You have to lower the amount of friction and prime yourself. Lower your ego and think of yourself as a dumb automaton that just goes through the motions (habits) most of the time. That means, when you are in the right state of mind, you need to prep the environment, set down some habit triggers ahead of time for your lazy automaton to execute.

Have you played the game Lemmings? It's kind of like that. If you don't put down a bridge (plan) ahead of time your future lemming self will just fall into the water and die (binge watch Netflix or grab fast food)

Thursday, August 15, 2019

An Example of Me Doing Less

I'm staying a friends place in Canada and he lives in one of those fancy apartments with its own gym. So one day I am doing a my workout and I think. Hey those machines look pretty fancy, maybe I should try out that leg press machine today. After doing a couple reps I start thinking back to what I wrote about longterm fitness goals and sustainability: do less. I talk about how people should think about long term goals; consider being your best 100 year old self.

I don't have a leg press machine at home, so this would just be a temporary. I mean I could go to the gym but I don't because its more efficient for me to not commute and I still get a great workout in. It's good to mix it up now and then but any gains that I'd get from it would be soon lost after I get back home and continue my standard workout routine. The leg press is a more isolated movement so I don't add it to my standard exercise routines, instead I opt for more (time) efficient compound movements.

So I decided to skip the fancy leg press machine and go back to some (bodyweight) squats instead. If I was trying to bulk up I'd definitely want to add more barbell and heavy lifting. But I've done that before and know that the amount of effort lifting and getting enough good calories to build muscle isn't worth it for me.

Everyone has different goals so do what works for you. Like the majority of people, I used to just go to the gym and do whatever seemed popular. But now that my goals are a bit more defined, its easier to adjust my actions to fit them

Saturday, August 3, 2019

Filter vs. Block

It's significantly more work to filter vs block.

Saying yes to the top 1% of things doesn't make it only 1% easier than saying no to everything. It's much harder.

If you are an investor, you can't lower your work by saying you are only going to invest in 5% of the best companies instead of 10% you did last year. The reason is because the filtering is the work. You have to filter either way.

It's easier for you to say no to candy, or alcohol if you decided you don't eat that food.

It's less work to filter your email by setting a filter to catch all email with the word "unsubscribe". But, you might miss something you actually wanted to see.

Choosing to say no to things frees up energy and focus for the things that are more important. But for the very important things, we probably should spend the extra energy that it takes to filter.

Thursday, August 1, 2019

Trichotomy of Control

Most people have heard of dichotomy of control:

1) Things we have full control over. (This is usually things closest to ourselves like setting our own goals and values)

2) Things we don't have full control over. (External events. We find more as we move farther from the self)

In this case the wisdom is to focus on your locus of control; the things you do have control over.

But think Trichotomy of control helps us go one step further because really there are things where we have some control over. Now we have:

1) Things we have full control over.

Focus on the things we have complete control over like goals and values. Marcus Aurelius and the stoics believed that by doing this alone, we were in compete control of living the good life. Because having great character was the metric as opposed to external events.

2) Things we have no control over.

Ignoring these is pretty straightforward. It would be a waste of time and energy to worry about these things.

3) Things we have partial control over.

What do we do here? One option would be to ignore these things as well. But that would limit our sphere of influence. Instead what is suggested is to think back to our dichotomy again. Focus on the things we do have full control over. This might be mean reframing the problem. We don't have control over if we will win the match, but we do have control over giving our best effort. This starts to sound a lot like Scott Adam's system vs. goals.

Again, simple concept but invaluable. If you are interested in more stoic philosophy I learned about this via A Guide To the Good Life. I thought it was interesting how thinking about the Trichotomy of control help us map our thinking back to the Dichotomy of control.

Tuesday, July 30, 2019

I'm Going To...

I've been following some of Naval Ravikant's podcasts (Check out https://nav.al/category/podcast) since I really enjoy how he explains concepts in a simple and concise way. The latest one that I heard was on Tim Ferris' podcast explaining what I've been calling trigger words. I've added it to the list

If you say "I'm going to do X..." as in "I'm going to lose the weight." or "I'm going to start that startup." or "I'm going to talk to that girl", you probably will not do X because you are giving yourself an out. You are delaying. If you were really going to do X you would just do it.

And of course it's difficult to do X because that requires suffering and the pain of change. If the pain is too much what you can do is lower what X is. If you can't commit to not smoking then first commit to smoking one less than your usual per day. Then later you can move to the next step.

But be aware that you should be doing it. Saying "I'm going to" is a good sign that its not going to happen or you aren't serious

Thursday, July 18, 2019

Do Less

Recently, I've been doling out advice to friends to do less. Although on the surface it sounds like bad, contradictory advice, I find in practice that it can be rather effective.

Let's take working out and getting in shape for example. I always like to go with a health & fitness example because the problem is universally understood and its a popular problem for most.

What do people usually do when they start off going to the gym?

There is some trigger for motivation. This causes them to sign up for a gym membership. They go hard for an hour each day for a week. They manage to keep this up for a month maybe until life catches up, the motivation is lost, and then they become too busy.

So how can doing less help?

Let's start with why. Peter Attia had a great insight that most people have not drilled down what they want out of their workouts. They have some sort of idea they should or need to go to the gym. But they don't really have a goal. Thats part of the problem. Peter recommends that, unless they are training for a specific sport or something, most people would do well to choose a goal as 'being the most fit 100 year old that they can be'. This changes everything. Because if this is the goal, the steps change completely. You are now focused on the long term. In a 100 year span, each workout is actually pretty meaningless. Similar to compound interest over a long period of time, the intensity of the workout means less, the consistency means a lot more.

I think it was James Clear that said when he was first starting on getting into shape, he would keep his working journal near his bed. If he hadn't worked out that day he would do 10 pushups before going to sleep and write it down. 10 pushups will not do anything for your body. However, it wasn't about the pushups. It wasn't the body he was training as much as the mind. If he did the 10 pushups he would be building a habit and identity; he would be the type of person that would do a workout everyday.

Along with this is the mental aspect of starting. The hardest part is starting. Once you put pen to paper and get some momentum you will probably crank out 500 words easily. Once you get to the gym you will do a workout. We usually don't have a problem doing work, we have a problem starting work. One of the ways to make things easier to start is to remove the barriers to start. Put the guitar right next to the couch, do a shitty first draft. In our case we don't want to expect a brutal workout, otherwise we will feel too tired for it. Instead if we only need 15 minutes for out workout, we have no excuses. Once we start maybe we do more.

The truth is that you don't have the time (its not a priority) to workout. Look at your actions, they are the truth. When you have to work late for work, or you want to join your friend for a movie, that workout doesn't get done - and that might be ok because those are higher priority for us, at least in the short term. So how do we solve this? The answer is to do less. It's not a priority to do a long, intense workout. Instead we need to limit it to the 20 minutes or even 10 minutes a day we can give it. So do less, because if you try to allocate an hour workout each day you will inevitably not be able to keep it up and then you will end up doing zero minutes - equivalent to risk of ruin, which is the worst outcome. But if you only allocate 15 minutes a day, you can probably stick to it. I'd even recommend not going to the gym since that alone might be 15 minutes and removing a commute will remove a barrier to starting. Obviously if you want to become ripped, you need to put in more time and more intensity. But we said our goal is to become a fit 100 year old whose body is not falling apart then we are ok with less.

It works because we overestimate what we can do in a day but underestimate what we can do in a year. It works because it helps us build habits. It helps us lower our barrier to entry and decreases the likeliness of burnout. Particularly for people who struggle with consistency, less is more.

Friday, June 7, 2019

Inspiration is Perishable

I haven't written a post in awhile. It's not that I didn't have any ideas that I wanted to share. I had them. We all have them. I'm inspired for a short while and I make a mental note of writing it later. But when later comes its gone. The reason I got around to it now is because I'm reading through this wonderful post by Naval Ravikant: https://nav.al/how-to-get-rich. There is so much gold in there but I'll just touch on this part for today:
"When you have your inspiration, do it right then and there... but sometimes I just hesitate, or I just pause, and it just dies." 
I always thought Nike had the perfect slogan but now I think it could be even more perfect if we add mind the time. If not, it will never happen. So

Just do it, now.



Wednesday, April 10, 2019

Enjoy the now

We are always striving to be somewhere else. If we are in school we are wishing that we are done with school. When we are working we are wishing for the day when we have enough money to stop working. If we are single we want to be married. If we don't have a house we can't wait until we can afford the down payment.

Which is all fine. But the problem is a lot of us delay our happiness and tie it to the new thing or the new state we will be in the future. We tell ourselves "I'll be happy when..."

But this kind of thinking is a trap. What makes you think you'll be happy when you get to that spot. It might be further along the path but just as before there is another hill in the distance, an even greener pasture.

This Alan Watts video put it beautifully. We keep thinking it's coming, it's coming.. one day we are going to get that success. And then one day we wake up and we are 40 realize, shit, it's not supposed to be like a journey where we are trying to get to the end. It's more like a musical or a dance, where we are supposed to fully enjoy it, every step of the way.

I'm a budding indie developer with very few customers, very little revenue. I'm going to try to enjoy this for as long as I can.

Thursday, April 4, 2019

Hidden Costs

Just read this NYT article The Streets Were Never Free which talks about how there is a general perception that the use of public roads and parking spaces is free. For most commodities, when the demand of it goes up, the price of it goes up as well. However, not so for roads. Thus the congestion as everyone wants to use the roads during rush hour.

To clarify, most people do know that the streets are not actually free since their taxes pay for it, however since the cost is not directly paid each time, there is less of a direct association, and thus roads can seemingly seem free.

It reminds me of the recent news of China and India refusing to take America's trash. I think that has built a sense that producing waste is nearly free. People see the $50 that they pay to have their recycling and trash taken but the idea of environmental costs were largely hidden because it was someone else's problem.

Another way to put it is, because of the hidden costs and subsidies people don't have enough skin in the game. The tighter the feedback loop the better. Thus the congestion and the trash in our face will be a good thing long term as we will finally have to face up to the problem. The traffic isn't going to get better on its own. At what point is the 3+ hour commute just not worth it? Hopefully we don't need to wait to see the full effects of burning our plastics and trash before we take action.



Tuesday, March 26, 2019

Zero To One

Peter Theil wrote of the concept of Zero to One in his book titled the same. Here's the summary (thanks goodreads.com):



Doing what someone else already knows how to do takes the world from 1 to n, adding more of something familiar. But when you do something new, you go from 0 to 1.
 This concept explains why I still use my Nexus 5, a 5 year old phone, today. I could upgrade and go from 1 to 1+n (in my opinion n is a small number) but I don't really care. I can do (almost) everything with my current phone as with the latest. The new one is a bit faster, has a later os, fingerprint scanner, etc. Whatever its an incremental upgrade. Going from a non-smart phone to a smart phone was a 0 to 1 upgrade.

It also explains why companies that do go from 0 to 1 are super successful: they are doing something new and don't have competition. Another concept similar to this is Red Ocean / Blue Ocean. Imagine a red ocean where many sharks roam and there is blood in the water. This is like when there is a bloodbath of many companies all competing with each other. Then there is a the Blue Ocean where no companies are. If you successful thrive in the blue ocean than you will own all of it. Companies like Google and Facebook have done this.

However, beware of playing in the blue ocean or going from 0 to 1. Because of survivor-ship bias we don't see all the companies that played in the blue ocean and died because there was not enough opportunity there. Although its incredibly profitable, it also is incredibly difficult and risky. I've heard many recommendations that indie developers should stick to the red ocean because that means there there is a demand, the market is already validated. Indie developers do not have enough resources to work in the blue ocean. Doing this means not creating something new, not going from 0 to 1.

However, creating something completely new even for an indie dev is fun and still can be rewarding. 0 to 1 is an important concept to understand and all entrepreneurs should know where they stand and the tradeoffs.

Thursday, March 21, 2019

Digital Minimalism

Cal Newport is the author of "So Good They Can't Ignore You" , one of my favorite books. Check out a previous post about the book's main topic: "Follow Your Passion" is bad advice.

Today I wanted to point out some topics from Cal's newest book: Digital Minimalism. I just got done with listening to the eBook and thought it was great. I'd recommend it. Here are some bullet points:

  • Thoreau noted that the farmers were not able to escape their harsh conditions with more work. Feels sorry for those that inherits farms, etc. because they are hard to get rid of.
  •  Clutter is cost. Must balance between cost of time and attention
  • Nietzsche, Descartes, Newton, Kant, Pascal, Wittgenstein, etc. are examples of men that never had families or close ties but lead remarkable lies. We are wrong to assume intimacy is the peak.
  •  "Solitude Deprivation"- we are living in a time where we are depriving ourselves of the gift of solitude. We try to avoid boredom at all costs.
  • In our downtime the brain automatically spends its free time thinking about social networks
  •  Receiving likes from people we don't know well does not correlate with happiness
  • Analog cannot differentiate between phone and interaction in front of us. the social-ness takes away positive experiences in front of us
  •  "one click approval mechanism" - Clicking like is just one bit of information. It does not replace a rich flow of information that we get from face to face communication
  • If you don't check and respond on instant messengers that often (it is asynchronous), then it won't be treated like dialog. Thus it paradoxically strengthens the relationship as you seek higher quality conversations. Do not treat (social media) it as a replacement for real conversation 
  • Chase high quality leisure - Aristotle
  • A nod to the FI community and particularly MMM. Work in the physical world. Happiness through meaningful work and connection.
  • Computer programming is good but it misses the physical world (This hit home since I code 16 hours a day. Although I do miss building physical stuff)
  • Replace passive interaction with screen with active interaction. Use the technology as support (i.e. use YouTube to learn how to change your oil, or do a muscleup), not the primary.
  • Fix or build something every week
  •  Social media companies want you to focus on why you use them not how you use them because the majority of people can get the same value in 20-40 minutes
  • Embrace slow media (well thought out curated - not "breaking" news) or as Tim Ferris says: low information diet
  • To what end? - Thoreau. Are we degrading our humanity (with this technology) ?

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Hidden Work

I didn't get too much done today. I spent most of the morning thinking about creating a new feature for my app. I sketched out different designs. Erased some things here, added a doodad there. It just didn't seem to fit though. After awhile of it I took a step back and realized that my approach was all wrong. I was trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. And furthermore, because it didn't fit right, I decided that it wasn't worth the effort to do the necessary work for the feature and to work on something else.

Although it didn't seem like I did much I actually got a lot done. We are all going to have days where we don't have a bunch of lines of code or words on paper to show for it, but that doesn't mean we didn't do work. We did the taxing work of emotional labor and thinking. Thinking doesn't happen for free.

Tim Ferris once mentioned that he would write 5 pages and only have one good paragraph that he'd actually use for his book. The rest of the writing would be thrown away. But there is no way around this because its precisely the bad work that has to be produced to get to the good work. It has to be this way. So all the work I did today led me down a path and then back to the beginning. It seems like I am back in the same spot but I gained a new perspective and solved my priorities. This learning experience could potentially save me a lot of time versus me going down a wrong path. I got work done after all.

It takes bad to get to good. Not all work can be quantitatively measured. Don't get down on yourself if it seems like you are having an unproductive day. Getting stuck or hitting quicksand might be part of the journey to getting to your goals.

Monday, February 18, 2019

Life Is Short

Life is short. We all hear this but its really hard to picture exactly how short it is. Tim Urban has some great visuals and technique for thinking about this. Think about the things you want to do in the percentage of time left to do them. For example, most of use live with our parents until we turn 18 and then move on to college. If we work we might come home once a month or so. That means that we only have 5% left of the total "spend time with parents" time left. That changes the perspective a lot. How valuable are those moments now? Might even consider making changes to increase that time?

Now that we see that time is short, how do you increase the amount of time we have? Paul Graham recommends spending less time on bullshit. In fact "It's almost the definition of bullshit that it's the stuff that life is too short for." Work on things that you find meaningful and would care about looking back in the future.

Don't worry, you don't need to quit your job. If its not soul sucking, a job can provide you the cover (health insurance & cash, less stress, etc.) to do what you love. Focus on reclaiming your time, prioritizing, and spending it on the most valuable things.

Thursday, February 14, 2019

Breaking the Rules

In families with multiple siblings have been studied extensively and one of the findings is that the second sibling tends to be more rebellious.

Why? Well the first sibling starts by himself and lives in the world of the parents. The parents set the rules and the sibling is raised to conform to them. Parents tend to be more careful with the first child and get more lenient with the later ones as they get more comfortable.

So then the younger child is born. The older child is more dominant and because he has been getting rewarded for following the rules, he usually passes his way down to the younger child.

Sometimes they follow suit but often the younger child realizes he can't win, can't stand out, or doesn't want to be told by big brother what to do. He doesn't like the game that the older brother (and the parents) have created for him, so he changes the game. He breaks the rules. A rebel is born.

Similarly, today's millennial look at the world the previous generation left them with: possibly no social security, a college system that doesn't serve them (rather than empower them it leaves them in debt and little hope for saving), and housing which is ridiculously expensive. Some will follow the path that their elders say they should follow, some scraping by, others digging a grave of labor. But I'm happy (well not with the situation but with the positive change) to see that some are starting to break the rules.

I love seeing all the creative reaction to this unfortunate situation. Some are deciding to not go to college. Some are deciding not to buy house. Take advantage of remote work. Live and work anywhere in the world. Or maybe roadtrip in an RV. There are movements to redefine what success looks like. Can't afford all the status items of the previous generation? No problem because now its about the experiences you are having. Take that hike to Machu Picchu or travel through South East Asia. Minimalism is on the rise. The internet is providing thousands of ways to make impact, relations, and money. YouTube, Podcasting, and gaming are just some of the new career options.

Sure, not everything is rosy. Depression in millennials is on the rise. There are bound to be problems. But creativity and new solutions, growth happens during hard times. Rather than play a rigged game, break the rules and find a better way.

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Use Substitution to Your Advantage

Today I wanted to give some examples of how we can use substitution in our lives to our advantage. We often think in terms of addition or subtraction, but there are a lot of situations were we'd be better or where it is absolutely necessary to use substitution.

Every hour we have is already accounted for. Trying to do something new like learn to play guitar, or a foreign language or a side hustle? Well, you aren't going to get more hours in the day to be able to do that thing. Instead its going to have to come from somewhere. That might mean sacrificing a different hobby, or it might be less internet browsing. For me, I used to be a big sports fan but I gave up sports completely to work on my app.

Every habit that we have serves a need. Once we realize this its much easier to change our behavior. Many people try to quit smoking without addressing the need. That usually doesn't go well. The best way is to become self aware enough to figure out what need that thing or habit is fulfilling. Then, find an appropriate substitute. I had an alcohol dependency. I replaced a glass of wine in the evening to working on something I was passionate about. The alcohol was a pick me up because I was bored and uninspired. But once I quit my job and worked on what I was excited about, that went away real quick.


Trying to diet? Rather than do a calorie restrictive diet, try to do a substitution diet instead. You don't need to starve yourself. It doesn't have to be painful. You can eat as much as you want, but you are only allowed to eat healthy foods. Instead of eating this, eat that. If you are a picky eater you can pick out of the foods you like. I've maintained a steady weight this way for the last 8 years.

When trying to change a habit or behavior sometimes substitution is the most effective

Tuesday, February 12, 2019

It's Not Safe To Speak

Hitting on yesterdays point that life is inherently risky, Jordan Peterson says "It is not safe to speak, but it is even less safe to not speak". It can be scary to put something out there. To publish that app or write that blog article or voice that opinion. God forbid put it on YouTube and have thousands or millions of people listen to what you say. If you did that you are absolutely certain to hear criticism. People might not get it. They might say your work sucks. They might laugh or mock you.

But do the work anyway. Ship it. Because NOT doing it is even more unsafe and risky. If you don't ship you won't get the feedback you need. You won't affect anyone around you. You won't have the opportunity to iterate. There would be no personal growth.

Not doing it comes with no power, no self respect, no ability to voice your opinions... no truth.

And in truth, the negative consequences are mostly fabricated in our heads. Our fear is designed to keep us alive and reproduce. It will tell us "hitting that submit button might ostracize us from the group, maybe we should keep our mouth shut, that would be safe" The truth is the opposite: most people won't care enough about you to pay attention. There might be 1 or two haters but it would be hard to get people to take notice. And if haters do take notice, good. Maybe they'll have some good criticism to take note of maybe they won't. It doesn't matter. Continue to do the work, its safer than not doing it.


Monday, February 11, 2019

Life is Risky


When considering doing something risky, we often focus on the risk of doing it and the consequences of failing. But sometimes we forget that there is often the hidden risk of not doing it.


I think one of the biggest things people forget is that our time is limited and we are all going to die. This should always be taken account in our decisions. If life was infinitely long, then there would be no risk in not taking risk. Why? Because if you didn't do it now, there truly would be time to do it later. But we haven't found the Holy Grail yet. So we all have the risk of death as our baseline to compare to.

I think back to my article on dangerous vs. scary where I say I truly believe it would have been dangerous to stay at my job. Again, its because life is finite and I would be burning my finite time, my most precious resource.

The point of this isn't to say that we should be more or less risk averse. It isn't to say we should quit our jobs. It's just a reminder to not delude ourselves that we are living life risk free regardless of the path chosen. The safest path to one person might be the most dangerous to another. Risk tradeoffs are everywhere whether we are aware of them or not.

Sunday, February 10, 2019

Its not About More Information


 When people are trying to lose weight, they might research the latest fad diet or start reading books about the best way to exercise. It seems like a logic thing to do. I've done the same for learning entrepreneurship. Seeking more knowledge is all good but, and especially since we have the internet, knowledge is not the problem.

"If information were the answer, we’d all be millionaires with six-pack abs." - Derek Sivers

 How many people today do not know the secret to getting a healthy body? Every single person knows this. You have to try hard to not know this because your friends, social media, the news will all have it. Yes another book comes out every month that adapts the previous diets a little bit, authers need to make money after all. The core knowledge doesn't change that often.

And what I'm not saying is that knowledge is bad, or that you will be successful with the wrong knowledge. Because if your info is bad and you eat cheeseburgers and pizza every day then you will likely not succeed in those six pack abs. What I am saying is that there is an overabundance of information today and knowledge is rarely the problem anymore.

So what is the problem? My answer is discipline. People lack the discipline to be able to apply the knowledge that they have. And the cycle continues because in order to develop discipline that takes a little bit of knowledge (which I'm still working on but I'll share what I know) and a lot of discipline.

For now, consider spending just as much or more effort on improving your discipline than improving your knowledge.
 
Bruce said it best:

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Saturday, February 9, 2019

Don't Judge Others

If you see someone living their life differently than yours don't judge them. You might see a young lady take frequent lavish trips to Europe on first class flights and wonder if she has any savings. You might see couples decided not to have kids. You might see people taking the "standard" route with a house and two kids and two cars and two jobs. You might even spot a millennial on her way to early retirement at 35.

Rather than judging, make an effort to have empathy. Remember that George Carlin bit where he says everyone driving slower than you is an idiot and anyone driving faster than you is a maniac? Think back to that quote when people are doing something different than you. It points out how egocentric we are; everything is relative to us.

But when we employ empathy, we can understand that those people are different than us and are driven by different values. I personally wouldn't buy an expensive luxury car because I rather use that money for more freedom and travel. But I can put myself into that family-from-povery-first-to-graduate-from-college's mind and realize that the car is much more meaningful to that person than just transportation. It represents success and new beginnings of happiness for him and his family and he draws much more happiness from it that I could have.

Not to mention that we often are only working with partial information. Maybe that young lady is not being reckless with her money because she's been saving earlier in her life. We don't know what her financial portfolio looks like. We don't know exactly what her values are either. Maybe she's made a conscious decision to have fun the earlier part of her life and does understand that she will work harder later to make it up. Or maybe she even has a terminal disease so she is living it up while she can. We don't know.

It reminds me of something Derek Sivers said: we might initially think that a serial entrepreneur was super successful. But what if that person had really wanted to not work as much and settle down in a peaceful quiet life but couldn't because of the entrepreneur addiction. In that case, I wouldn't call him a success.

Through practicing empathy, I've learned to appreciate others' decisions. At the same time I realize that sometimes others will judge me and my decisions but I can accept (and ignore) that because I understand that they are seeing things from their lens. Its my dream not theirs.

Friday, February 8, 2019

People In Control Do Not Get Angry

One of my favorite posts related to the concept of "Fuck you money" (which I'll refer to as FYM from here on) is A Story of a Fuck Off Fund. In short, the lack of FYM hinders your ability to fight for your values and, by extension, to control how you live your life.

I just wanted to use it to point out something else: People who are truly in control do not get angry

See, FYM tends to have some anger behind it. Someone toils away building up their savings until they have enough. Then they can yell those magical words at their pointy haired boss and walk out the door. Pent up anger from years of being "forced" to do work they didn't want to do.

But if you look closely, you'll notice that there's weakness there. That's frustration. That's lack of control.


Why? Because someone else caused you to have these negative feelings. Something external. People who are truly in control don't get frustrated or angry. Why? Because they have the power to do something about it.

If the company changes and you end up having an inept boss? No problem. You have the skills to manage up or the financial discipline to leave. You don't throw your arms up like a kid and cry about your situation. That's what control feels like.

In reality, noone has complete control but the more you hone your resourcefulness, problem solving, and skills to empower yourself, the less you will feel the need to be angry (or sad, depressed, etc.)

In the FYM story, if you do end up reaching your financial independence, consider exercising your control muscle and leave with dignity and grace.. for it was really you who did not have the skills to improve your situation. But hey, you can also give yourself a pat on the back for building up the discipline to empower yourself. Good job.

Thursday, February 7, 2019

Write Every Single Day

I was listening to Seth Godin's Podcast Akimbo and the Q and A section had some gold. I haven't been writing for awhile but after listening to this, I'm forced to start again. I'm just going to transcribe the question and response verbatim.

 From Akimbo, episode "The Big Sort", time 34:28

Question:

"You highly recommend blogging daily, you say it will change you for the better. You also talk about putting your work out there for people to see and not hide it because of what they may think, and also you remind us that there is no such thing as writers block. If you can't write things that are great just keep writing and it will naturally get better"

"So here's the question: If I commit to a daily blog, and I commit to putting it out there for anyone and everyone to see, should I still post on days when the content isn't as good as I'd want it to be? Should I just not care what people think?"

Seth's Response:

"I'm glad that my riffs about the daily writing habit are resonating with you. So let me try to be specific as I can. Your work will never be good enough. Your work is unlikely to ever feel good enough. But we do the work anyway. We go to the gym even though we can't run a 4 minute mile. We decide to write an essay or a book or a blog post even though we are not Steven King. That's OK. The goal here is not to be perfect. The goal is not even to be the best in the world. The goal is to express ourselves, to be interesting, to land an idea in someone else's consciousness so they can go ahead and also make things better."

"So yes you have to ship every single day. You can't say 'what the heck' and ship junk. But you have to ship every single day. Because that will put the resistance on notice and the resistance will push you to make better work the first time as opposed to spending all its time stalling and looking for excuses."


Recommitting again. Thanks Seth.

Thursday, January 17, 2019

Luxury May Be Making You Unhappy

On one side we have deprivation. Webster defines this as the state of being kept from possessing, enjoying, or using something

On the other side we have luxury a condition of abundance or great ease and comfort

Most of us spend most of our lives trying to move from deprivation to luxury. But should we be?

I think most of us will agree that deprivation is not a great state to be in. We naturally seek things that will make us happy: great experiences, wealth, freedom. So we strive to have more and earn more.

But is luxury, way on the other side of deprivation, something to strive for? In general its not a bad idea. But be careful about going too far down the luxury path. MMM, had a great visual with his "catheter and a bedpan" example. I'll paraphrase:
In life we seek comfort. So let's start out by sitting on the couch and watching TV. That's pretty relaxing right? Well let's make it more comfortable. Let's give you a Snuggie and some soft slippers, a nice warm beverage and some pizza within arms reach. To make things even more convenient let's give you an iPad so you have a second thing to watch if you get bored. And changing the channels is pretty annoying so let's add some voice activation so you can change the channel by just talking. Finally, instead of having to get up and get more food or go to the bathroom how about we hook it up with a catheter and a bedpan, and a friend or robot could bring you all your food on the couch
 A contrived example to show that luxury (aka great ease and comfort) will make things worse at some point. We can clearly see it in the extreme example above but if we examine the luxuries in our daily lives, I think we can find some examples of how that luxury that we initially find welcoming, could be sapping a bit of happiness. I'll list a few examples of common ones:

One of the big ones I've noticed is walking. People refuse to walk anymore. With Uber and Lyft we can summon a car to any street corner. So rather than walk 2 miles, which everyone w/o a disability should be capable of, people will pay $10 for the luxury of being driven. It is much faster so it might be necessary sometimes but for the other times: you already don't get enough exercise so the walking would healthy and great for body & mind and on top of that you get paid $10 (remember money saved is >= than money earned)

The iPad. The iPad might be a symbol of luxury because a) it is really expensive and b) it provides you the convenience to consume media, with much more ease than a laptop. So how is this luxury bad? Well first off most of us work for our money so buying anything costs us a part of our lives. Then, (and I'm heavily biased as a maker, but that's the point of this article, for us to each look into our luxuries and think about pros and cons for ourselves), for starters its a consumption oriented device so its more difficult to make things with. An iPad doesn't have a keyboard so it is much harder to input, which makes it harder to create things such as emails, website, code, etc. unless there is an app specific for making the thing you want. Consuming media itself can be good, but there is a point of going too far; we all know how the hangover after a Netflix binge feels.

So the point of this is not to say that all luxuries are bad but to say they can be bad and to open our eyes an examine cases for yourself. The default auto-pilot seems to be that more luxury == good, so if you even stop to consider that this might not be true sometimes, you'll be better off.